FET Code of Conduct

Be kink-friendly

Please be friendly and tolerant of other members. Do not use FET to threaten, harass, stalk, or abuse others. Do not express views which may be considered racist, bigoted or hateful towards another individual, group, culture, race, religion, sexuality or fetish. Abusers will have their profile blocked and/or result in having their profile deleted.

Be considerate

Please be considerate of others. Don't deliberately disrupt conversations or participate in offensive behaviour. Disruptive or offensive behaviour includes making derogatory remarks, USING ALL CAPITAL LETTERS and filling up the screen with the same letter or gibberish. Abusers will have their profile blocked and/or result in having their profile deleted.

Your kink is okay!

Respect each others differences. We're a diverse bunch with a wide range of ethnic backgrounds, races, genders, cultures, sexual orientations, fetishes, religions, ages and abilities which form our identity and the way we live. You don't have to agree with everyone's point of view but it's important to respect that everyone has the right to express them without prejudice, discrimination or abuse.

If you read or see something that you don't agree with, yet it is not specifically directed at you (i.e. a discussion within one of the groups) you are more then welcome to ignore the comments and look for a discussion where you can contribute and add value to.


Your safety is very important to us. Please, at all times, take note of the FET SSS Rule - to take care of your own safety. Keep with the digital SSC and RACK philosophy.

Be smart

Don't give out personal information straightaway. Keep your phone number, email address, full name and address to yourself.

Be sure

Get to know someone first. Exchange spanks, message them, arrange a chat so you can talk in 'real time', and swap photos when you feel comfortable. While you might like to talk on the phone, don't give out your number immediately. That's why we created a chat and video chat function for you on FET. If you do call, it's best to use a mobile phone number rather than a home phone number.

Be safe

If you decide to meet any FET app members, always first meet in a public place with other people around, like a cafe, bar, restaurant or mall. Don't ever arrange to meet someone at a house the first time you meet, and don't take someone back to your house until you feel very sure about them. If you're concerned about another member, please report them.

Harassment and Disputes

Harassment is not tolerated on FET. Do not continue to contact other members who have requested you to stop. FET has no intent or interest in getting involved in domestic or private disputes between members and does not provide any arbitration or settlement services should a dispute arise.

You alone are responsible for ensuring that your interaction with other members is lawful. FET advises you that there may be risks of dealing with members acting under false pretences or with criminal intent.

FET cannot control what happens between members once they decide to meet in person. However, if you encounter behaviour that may be deemed harmful to other members you are requested to contact FET with full details. We may then, if deemed appropriate by FET app's sole discretion, warn, suspend or delete the offending member's profile.

You alone are responsible for the message content you transmit to other members. You will ensure that it is appropriate and is not in breach of the Terms of Use.

FET does not in ordinary circumstances review or censor member message content but reserves the right to delete messages which contain advertising or which FET regards as spam. We reserve the right to review messages if there is a reported breach of conduct or if required by the relevant authorities.


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